Just because you figured you’re different with another person, doesn’t mean you wouldn’t fit with that person/have a good relation with that particular person.
Okay, it’s another case if you don’t want to, but it’s another case if you do want to!
Differences, they are really the one that helps you in ‘learning’. Or that is, in my opinion.
By differences and diversities, we learn, and experience.
Without differences and diversities, our mind/brain would be narrow, or some people call ‘em, narrow-minded.
Why? Because; you think (I hope you do) when you were faced with differences. ‘Why does s/he think that way?’ — by that you experience several types of thinking.
Of course, environment, background, life experiences plays a part on how a personality and habit work (I’ll spare the genotypes outta here, and just talk about phenotypes fer now).
But hey, what do you aim in life really? Like, what is it do you really want to know? I always ask myself world’s biggest questions and sometimes its just no good. I think too much!
That aside;
Life is like a puzzle. You find several pieces and try to get a picture.
Relations between people are like puzzle pieces. There are a number of puzzle pieces out there. Each puzzle pieces would be different, can be different, can also be similar/exactly the same.
The difference in puzzle pieces don’t actually break those individual pieces when put together properly. When put together properly, those differences would actually be a strong relation between two different/slight different individual pieces of puzzles.
What about those similar or same ones? Relation would be there, just that the ‘attachment’ or relation wouldn’t be as strong.
What I’m saying is; sometimes, you do need to have differences with other people in order to bond well. But please, don’t let those differences be an obstacle for you to experience and learn.
It’s okay to be different, it’s okay to accept different things.
If we were to follow the same path for 1000 years, when will human civilization improve? Everyone have different ideas and opinions and perspective. Those would actually let you see more.
Or at least that’s how I see it.
So, sometimes I really don’t understand why a person would so strongly be against cross-cultural relations between humans.
Maybe one day I’ll understand.
Maybe they were just afraid of failure (there’s no doubt there would be failure with your puzzle, where you might force a different piece so much that it breaks).
Or Maybe, they don’t want the wrong things to happen, too risky. Thus, sticking to the conventional ways would bring out guaranteed result.
Humans are complex beings, with complex patterns.
Even you reading my blog right now, do you really understand me? Personality changes. Some stay, some moves to a better personality, to suit an environment.
Confusing. Life is a puzzle.
And that statement ‘puzzle’ can be applied in so many ways.
Life is a puzzle, because we need to arrange and get a picture of our life.
Life is a puzzle, in terms of relations.
Life is a puzzle, because it’s just simply puzzling.
Life is a puzzle, because you need to put pieces together when it’s broken.
Life is a puzzle, insert your own reasons here, and so on.